We go out to eat at those places the kids throw a hissy not to eat at or to see a movie alone or with another couple or race home and spend some quality time alone when the kids are preoccupied on Friday night. This week Daniel had company on Friday, so that moved date night to Saturday. Saturday's can range from shopping to lunch to visiting other ADULTS to... well.. riding on the back country roads and just talking; anything to tune out the rest of the world and focus on our relationship.
At first it was weird. We had no clue what we wanted to do. A big sign we have been apart too long. We quickly realized this needed to change. So, we try to do date night at least twice a month, depending on how loaded the Calendar seems to be for that month. Just a few hours alone, uninterrrupted seems to work wonders for our relationship. Granted, everyone TELLS you in the beginning of your marriage that you NEED time alone or date nights, but nobody tells you just how to accomplish that. Oh yah, hire a babysitter? That would have meant 3 days of intense cleaning, paying a sitter so we could drive off and not have any money to do anything...and well, it just wasn't worth it. After 19 years of marriage and seeing countless friends divorce or lose a spouse.. we decided it was well worth the effort to see that date night happened. It also helps that the kids no longer need sitters, we have the extra money and the kids would rather stay home.
We opted for an early movie - 3:10 to Yuma. Ugh.. a cowboy movie. You must know that I try my best to busy myself somehow with cleaning to avoid seeing Three Mules for Sister Sarah for the bazillionith time!! I just would rather catch dust bunnies under the bed than sit through another afternoon of Clint Eastwood. Now, Sam Elliot is a different story for a different day. But Rich loves a good cowboy movie and how could I resist? It was date night!
I bought the tickets early as we always seem to rule late and by golly, I gotta have my popcorn and coke at the movies. Who cares if it's 20.00; nearly double what we paid to get IN?? It's money well spent to set the mood. Afterall, it IS date night. We are allowed to splurge.
If you're wondering, yes, the movie was filled with couples our age or OLDER and all must have been having date night and splurging on popcorn and all the men where smiling! Date night consisting of popcorn, coke, a guy flick and swinging from the chandeliers later all because I took my woman out on a date, what-could-be-better smiles!
The movie was good. It really was. I like to "see into the future" at the end of a movie and they didn't do that, but oh well. It was good and hubby liked it, we had popcorn and coke and ... well, you get the picture.
So what do you do for date night? It doesn't have to be dinner and a movie.. it's whatever you love.
- Get icecream
- Go to the movies
- Pick up food
- Go out to eat
- Rent a movie
- Ride in the country
- Get up at 5 and go out for breakfast
- Sit on the patio and greet the day
- Take the dogs running in the country
- Visit friends
- Spend time alone
- Shopping; errands